Intercultural Relationships and the White Male

           American men who settle intoourselves and our children hopefully see a more unified
intercultural relationships are of a certain type. Someparental front.
distinct undercurrent exists in our personalities. In a            It is of course our very
sense we are of stripped identity. Or maybe a moreweaknesses that open us up to the dynamic disruptive
accurate description is that we have never been fullygyrations that intercultural relationships entail. For we
clothed to begin with.are the ones who are predetermined to learn those
           We have generally few strongfew Arabic phrases for when we should meet a pitied
values and are prone to succumb to other more wellPalestinian exile. We are the ones who offer the
defined individuals, namely of strong willed captivatinggraceless and toadying bow to a Japanese that we
women. It is as if we are trying to fill our lives. We areencounter at a social, when he should be the one who
often survivors of parents with weak personalities,first reaches out his right hand in greeting since he is in
who made minimal or no impact on our ownour country. We are the ones who just seem to have
resonance. So we are pretenders and inventors, oftenthat pre-programmed sense of guilt in general about
rendering grander definitions of ourselves than reallybeing "a white American male."
exist.            So here we are. Why not fall in
            As we clash more often with ourlove with a domineering foreign woman? It is what we
counterparts, we are sometimes prone to suddenhave been working our whole lives to build up to. In
defensive outbursts. Eventually we realize that wethis sense we are the poster boys for American
have been diminished, and in the end succumb for thepost-modern reinvention.
greater good of all. In our defeat we recreate